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5 Relationship Truths Everyone Should Know

February 27, 2014

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While it’s true that our happiness shouldn’t depend entirely on having a partner, the reality is that a close relationship definitely enhances our lives. But even once you’re in a relationship, a healthy, intimate bond can weaken if not nurtured properly. These five irrefutable truths influence the quality and longevity of a relationship—if you want to build and maintain a strong, loving relationship, take them to heart.

1. You get back what you put in. Treating others the way you want to be treated is always important; with a romantic partner, this is even more significant. Kindness can go a long way in a relationship. Even little things like picking up the phone or sending a text just to say “I love you” can make a difference in your loved one’s day.

2. Forgiveness may not always be easy, but it takes someone with strength to forgive. Forgiving not only helps the person you’re forgiving, but also releases you from a painful burden. It’s helpful to remember that forgiving someone does not mean you’re saying what happened is OK; it just means you want to move beyond this point in the relationship.

3. Keep certain aspects of your relationship private. There will be secrets shared between you and your partner. Even when you think it is harmless, allowing other people into your private world can be dangerous. These kinds of actions can wear away the trust your partner has in you, and leave him or her feeling betrayed. Depending on the secret you shared, humiliation may also come into play.

4. Criticism is easy. Try to find something good about your partner and your relationship every day. Never be shy about complimenting your significant other openly. This could be just what they need after a long day. Consider purchasing a journal and dedicating it to jotting downthe things you love about your partner. If you write something positive in it every day, when you feel frustrated or annoyed, you can open your journal and remember why you two are together.

5. Keep in mind that relationship building never stops. Once a relationship has matured, it seems that couples tend to neglect the niceties that are such a central part of a young relationship. Falling into this passive state is damaging, since these gestures can help strengthen your relationship. One exercise that may help you appreciate your relationship more is to think about what your life would be like without your significant other. Envisioning everything you’d miss about him or her may just make you want to take a moment and show your partner you care. Dismissing the people we are closest to is sadly common, because we expect that they’ll always be there. However, this is far from true;Sometimes, our significant others find someone who offers the attention that we are neglecting to give. Prevent this from happening by remembering that a relationship is a living, changing entity that needs attention and care.

What do you do to keep your relationship strong? Share in the comments below.