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4 Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Yourself

August 19, 2013

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Putting yourself and your needs first is not always easy. We all have been guilty of placing ourselves on the backburner while we strive to make others around us happy. Of course there is nothing wrong with caring for and building strong relationships with others, but it’s important to really get to know yourself and make time for your hobbies and favorite activities. After all, the relationship that you have with yourself is the longest and most important one that you will have in your entire life.

Take Yourself on a Date

Carve out some time once a week or once every other week to spend a few hours doing something by yourself that you really love doing. Maybe this means window-shopping and having lunch downtown, going for a long bike ride in the country, or going to see a new movie in the theater. Doing something that has special meaning to you and doing it alone is a wonderful way to build a strong relationship with yourself. You also don’t have to worry about whether or not your date is going to call you again! 

Morning Reflection

Every morning when you wake up, spend just ten minutes reminding yourself of all of the good things that you have going on in your life. You could do this by writing in your journal, sitting quietly, or even speaking aloud to yourself. After you have woken up your mind, follow up your time of reflection with some light stretches or yoga poses to wake up your body for the day ahead.

Get Moving

Finding time to break a sweat is a great way to appreciate your body and give your mind time to relax. This doesn’t mean you need to start training for a marathon. Find a workout that feels right – maybe it’s yoga, hiking or strength training, and commit a regular fitness routine.

Practice Compassion

The very best way to improve your relationship with yourself is to practice compassion. Maybe you over-indulged on sweets or didn’t get everything checked off of your “to do” list. Or maybe you’re like me and you tend to take on too many projects and you never have enough time to finish all of them. Remember that tomorrow is a new day, and there is no reason to punish yourself for something that happened in the past.

What are some of the ways that you focus on the relationship that you have with yourself?