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A Wife's Cooler Head Helps a Marriage Thrive

November 7, 2013
ABC News Radio

Husbands know the quickest way to get an angry wife madder is by telling them to “Calm down.”

However, a University of California Berkeley study say that marriages seem to thrive when it’s the wife who is able to shed her anger while the husband’s emotional state doesn’t really come into play one way or the other.

Lead author Lian Bloch and her research team looked into how 80 middle-aged and older heterosexual couples bounced back from having arguments and in virtually every case, when the woman got her anger under control, the marriages seemed stronger and destined to last.

UC Berkeley psychologist Robert Levenson, who was also involved in the study, said, “When wives discuss problems and suggest solutions, it helps couples deal with conflicts.”

However, things didn’t work out as well when it was other way around, according to Levenson.  Wives don’t appear to like it when husbands leap “into problem-solving mode too quickly.”